Wedding Customs to Let Die!

Weddings are laden with traditions, customs, and sentiment. These links to the past are part of what make weddings feel so special. There are, however, customs associated with weddings that are long over-due to be left on the dust-bin of history! These are some wedding customs we could do without:
The garter. It is one thing for the bride to wear it as a special surprise for her groom to discover after the wedding. It is quite another to make a big production of removing it during the reception and tossing it to the male guests. This custom definitely does not have the charm of the bouquet toss! What is even worse is the tasteless spectacle of a drunken man pushing the garter up the thigh of the woman who caught the bouquet. Enough already! Money trees and dollar dances. Yes, I know that they are part of the culture in certain countries, but this is not one of them. An American bride who does not follow the other rituals and traditions of the land of her ancestors should not decide that the dollar dance is suddenly a vital part of her cultural heritage. Your guests will see it for what it is: making them pay for their own refreshments at your wedding. The bride saying, “IT’S MY DAY”. Yes, we know it is “your day”, but that is not a legitimate excuse for disregarding the feelings of others, demanding that your parents bankrupt themselves financing your dream wedding, or treating your bridesmaids like indentured servants. Besides, isn’t the wedding actually for the groom, too? Sleazy bachelor parties so WHOLESALE 925 STERLING SILVER JEWELRY WITH NATURAL RUBY(j020254agh). One hopes that the groom is entering into the marriage willingly, and therefore should have no need live it up (because his life is not, in fact, over after he is married), or worse, have “one last fling”. I’m all for the groom and his friends having a fun outing together, but do not do anything that you would not want your bride to find out about. Displaying the marital bedsheets the morning after the wedding. This is a vile custom that is still practiced in some parts of the world. The idea is that there will be blood on the sheets to prove that the bride was a virgin at the time of the marriage. It is a truly barbaric practice, and besides, women have been finding a way to fake the stain for centuries, anyhow. The bride’s family paying for the entire wedding. This is another outdated custom, which is along the lines of a dowry. The wedding should be paid for by whomever can afford it best, or the family having the majority of the guests. It is also very common for the bride and groom to bear some of the expense themselves. The couple should certainly pay for their own bridal jewelry, like the wedding bands, and might also pay for any other special bridal jewelry that the bride will wear with her gown (it makes a lovely gift from the groom). At the least, the groom’s family should offer to shoulder some of the costs (perhaps for the florist or the band), and let the bride’s family accept or decline depending on their need. Bridal registry information being included in the wedding invitation because of Office Style Crystal Bowknot Lady Necklace 1398 Champagne. This is in fact, not a custom, but some mercenary brides will try to pretend that it is to unsuspecting guests. It is highly inappropriate to link an invitation to an implied demand for a gift – it makes it look like you are charging admission!

There are many, many wonderful customs that are a part of weddings in our society. They make an important milestone even more meaningful. Just be sure to choose to include the customs that will enhance your wedding, rather than those that will detract from it.

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